Sunday, August 23, 2009

Man O Man

Sometimes it's hard to start writing after a break and then you put on top of it that I saw Julie and Julia where part of the plot is about how self-absorbed bloggers are plus I heard from my cousin in California that my favorite aunt is now is hospice care and yeah, that's most of it.

Today my older daughter went home because she has soccer practice this week and she's a senior and wants to be captain and so forth. We still have a week in Lake Placid and I'm not easily dislodged, so I drove her to Albany, NY, where the train station features jungle noises piped into the parking garage, something I'd not experienced before, and I put her on a train and she had 90 minutes to change trains at Penn Station and we heard from friends that it was easy.

My daughter is a great kid but she is also a bit of a shlamazel sometimes. After driving back to 15 miles shy of Lake Placid, my phone rings and she tells me I have to drive back to Albany, pick her up and drive her home. Why? There's a problem with a bridge. She doesn't know where she is but they've been backing up by a bunch of stations. "Where are you?" "I don't know." I tell her I'll head back but if the train starts going forward again she'd better get on the phone to me right away.

Let me insert a once upon a time. I took a train from Glacier Park in Montana to Chicago in what I didn't realize was the aftermath of a major flood. North Dakota was essentially underwater, and though normally that could happen and I'd never know the difference, this time it meant the train stopped somewhere and all I could see in any direction was water, with the occasional tree and fence sticking up. We backed up for 3 1/2 hours, almost 100 miles, then switched onto a track that went through South Dakota, and everyone who was supposed to go to North Dakota had to take a bus from someplace further south. We got to Chicago almost exactly 12 hours late, but I was pretty sure they weren't backing up all the way to Albany.

As I'm getting ready to turn around just in case, and she said they'd just stopped at the Yonkers station. In case you don't know where Yonkers is, look at a New York City map and look at the northern edge. That's Yonkers (named after a Dutch guy whose nickname was "Jonker,' just like the Bronx is where the Bronck family lived, as in going to visit the Bronck's), so they were maybe 8 miles from Penn Station, so basically, they'd gotten almost all the way there but the draw bridge was broken, so they had to get on a commuter train and go to Grand Central instead. At this point I explained that there was no way I was going to pick her up. And then I was out of cell phone service (as most of this area is) and never got another call along the way.

Finally she called again at 4:15 to say she'd made her train to Philly by about a minute and would be home on schedule. So it was a drama but not a tragedy.

After I got home, I wanted to walk around the lake. This is 2.7 miles and among the most pleasant walks you could imagine. I have done it in every sort of winter weather- snowstorms, 20 below, that kind of thing. Summer isn't usually so eventful, but today it was drizzling as I left and it began to rain harder and harder and harder until there was thunder and lightning and a torrential downpour. I had given it enough thought to bring an umbrella, which was fine until I was almost exactly halfway around the lake when the skies opened up. By the time I got close to home, the sidewalk and street were completely flooded, my feet were squishing in my sneakers, a car had come by and completely splashed me completely from the waist down. In the middle of this my daughter called to tell me she'd gotten home.

That's enough to catch up, I'll take some pictures and put them up tomorrow or Tuesday.

Friday, August 14, 2009

Rules of Life

Things with hooks are going to catch on something whether you want them to or not. If you doubt this, try getting a couple of bungee cords off a wire shelving unit.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Suburban Guy Skills

As any fan of Napoleon Dynamite knows, girls only want boyfriends with skills, and the same goes with husbands and fathers. I've certainly acquired a few in my lifetime.

I can put up a pot of water to boil on the stove, walk out of the room and do something else, and return just as the water starts to boil.

I can reheat 4 separate meals of leftover/takeout food and have them all ready at the same time and feed the dog while they're heating.

I can kill bugs by snatching them out of midair.

I know what my dog wants just by looking at her.

I know what my daughter wants just by looking at her.

I have changed diapers and am therefore not afraid to get anything on my hands.

I know what every remote control in the house goes with and how it works and I know what every cable and cord lying around is for.

I know the cheapest and/or best place to get anything within 10 miles of here.
and most importantly for a man living in a house full of females

I know when to keep my mouth shut.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Nothin' Doin'

Last post I was waiting to see if I had to serve on a jury, but the defendant plead guilty and they sent us home after 4 hours. That's been about the most interesting thing happening.

I've done stuff, of course, there's always stuff even when there's nothing to do. I left the basement freezer door open a crack for I don't know how long and had to empty everything out and throw it away. I drove to Connecticut and retrieved my daughter from soccer camp. I cleaned my junk out of the shed. I got new tires put on my car. I multitasked even when there wasn't ever more than one thing to do ( a real feat if you think about it).

So now I can feel the school year creeping up. It's still four weeks away, but closing fast.

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Sitting in the jury marshalling room hoping to not get called.

Monday, August 03, 2009

After the Flood

It's an interesting experience riding a bike around the day after a flood. I happened to be out (in my car) in the midst of the downpour yesterday and saw water hitting a bridge and flying 3 feet in the air before coursing onto the road. On one of my usual routes, there are lots of trees and so I'm always watching for fallen branches, but today there were river rocks too. You don't see those on the road too often.

Sunday, August 02, 2009

Flipping the switch

I spent the first two thirds of my life without empathy. Not that I was mean or lacked the ability to empathize, I just had no idea how to look outside myself and no sense that it would even be good to learn. This is all tangled up with a bunch of other things I had to wrestle with as I grew up, but the short story is that by the time I was around 40 years old I learned how to listen and how to attune myself to others' feelings.

This turns out to be a useful thing. Listening and understanding the feelings of others has applications in all kinds of things, even beyond the obvious stuff like being able to have a long-term relationship. It even comes in handy in many jobs.

Here's the problem with empathy, though. It's very hard to turn it off. It comes up all the time when dealing with the moods of adolescents, which applies to me both at home and at school so in other words, all the time. This is not a good thing. There are situations when I simply need to ignore others' moods and the urgent needs, but I have a very hard time doing so. I'm not writing to say I've figured it out, but I am working on it.

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Unusual

I was about to cross the Henry Hudson Bridge at the northern end of Manhattan when I saw a small sign that read,
Life Is Worth Living
24 Hour Helpline
1-800- (something)

I found this moving and can't remember ever seeing anything like it. Has anyone?